Was pretty busy lately, studies, projects and head goes round again. Never you have enough time to accomplish everything, or so it seems. Everyone wish we had more time, question is: do we use what we have wisely? Most times answer is: no, we don’t. Why?
The answer lies in you, for me the reason are studies, illusions, expectations and self-destructive behaviour.
I’m still a student, getting into my final year. So far I’ve learned nothing of use to me, no more, no less. It’s just a waste of my time. Why do I stay? Why don’t I go? Why waste it? Because we must. Why? Because society says so. Almost every single person tells you to do just like they say. Even if they are not right at all. When you ask them – Why? Why should I stay even though I get nothing from it? They tell you: to prove you’re not dumb. Truth is: it is dumb to waste your time for a piece of paper. People try to prove they are not dumb by doing dumb things, when we could accomplish something of a greater value.
It makes me sick. We waste our time for things we don’t have interest in. Where does it gets us? By doing things you don’t like you rarely get it done well. And you never want to get back to it. On the other hand when you are interested in what your doing, when you feel like crushing mountains, that’s where great things happen. That’s where your work tends to shine and other people start to notice and appreciate it. By staying at University you delay your thoughts about your future.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against education. I’m against of forcing it. There are a lot of great people that prove that, while formal education might be a good thing, self-education is tens times better.
Just check out a list of 50 people successful people here. (external link)
University will never be able to teach you everything, you will have to continue with self-education anyway. University at most is just a basis, it might also help with getting a job, that is all.
So here we are: we waste time doing what we’ve been told to do, even though it has no use.
Illusions and expectations
We tend to chase illusions and have wrong expectations, when we don’t get there – we go into self-destruction mode.
I’ve been there. You’ve probably been there too. How to avoid that? I believe you should not expect anything. That easy. If you don’t expect anything and it will actually happen – result is a huge positive boost. If it doesn’t happen, well, you didn’t lose a thing. Not to mention, when you expect something – you most likely to take it for granted, resulting in “whatever” behaviour. But consider when you don’t get something that you expect, oh mama, most of the time it gets you by the arse.
Self-destruction is what we do best.
When you get a lot going on it tends to build up on you. You start to feel like there is no end to this. Such things bring stress, you start to dig up in negative thoughts. In other words: you waste your time by digging yourself a grave. I tend to fall into this. No matter what, I’m the first in line for digging. That’s terrible, you can blame anything or anyone, but you’re the reason behind this. You need to stop it. How do you stop this? Not sure yet, but I see a lot of people meditate to kill such thoughts. Want to give it a shot and see if it gets me somewhere. Most certainly we should not look back and get far ahead of ourselves. What matters is now as wise people say.
One brick at a Time.
In the end you want to do what actually matters to you, period. If you don’t, you will get all the nasty things: procrastination, self-digging, time-waste. Sometimes you have to do something, even if you don’t like it, that’s perfectly fine. But whatever the case I doubt it’s a good idea to always do something you hate.
I guess we should remember one more thing: That while pursuing our ideas is a great thing to do, we still should have time to sit back and relax once in a while, to be in “the moment”. That really helps as I found out lately.